It would be safe to say, that the number one attribute of any apartment that I’ve moved into, are good neighbors. To me, that’s the one variable that just makes you love your place, or motivate you to start planning another move.
But that’s the one thing you can’t exactly mention to the Landlord as he/she is giving you that initial tour of the apartment. You might be getting an earful of “our amazing amenities” from him,, as you walk from room to room.. and you might have questions for him, such as…
Does it have a dishwasher? An internet connection in the upstairs loft? ( love my loft )
That would cast you, as the potential renter, already in a negative light, .. like you’re one of those tenants who complains a lot.
I’ll just jump to the chase. After only a week in this new apt, I realized that the steady booming on the other side of the wall, was one of my neighbors. He loved his music, and loved blasting his movies with his custom-installed TV-speakers, which must have been smack against the other side of the wall.
I let about 7 months go by, where I resisted it, and went kind of “3rd dimensional” mode in this situation.. meaning, I adopted the mass-consciousness method, where you just get irate, like most people would and wonder what outside actions you can take.
I then re-heard a lecture, where Neville mentioned the woman who wanted a quiet neighbor next to her house – the family was noisy. It worked for her.
I started going inside, and began applying the Sedona method ( or really, The Release Technique, which was created by Larry Crane ).
Every time I heard the noise again, I went inside, and just sat there on the couch, and asked myself,
where is the discomfort? ..
Is it Wanting Security, Wanting Control, Wanting Approval.
It was wanting control and wanting approval.
I wanted to control this situation.. AND I wanted my neighbor to approve of me enough, to where he’d care that I can’t stand the noise he’s making, and that it makes my home less pleasant..
So that’s the Letting Go side of the manifesting equation. I was able to get my mood up the emotional scale, to sort of neutral, and possibly even “Content”
Then I asked myself.. how could I start feeling the feelings of someone with quiet “people surroundings”.
1.) An exercise immediately came to me, that I knew I had to immediately do:
I wrote down those feelings. They were basically “happy” and “content”. I started doing more things that made me happy and content, deliberately, even if meant spending more money ( get a massage, get a sweet, fat-laden, latte once a week )
( I knew that there was still a little bit too much charge for me, to want to try to specifically imagine the exact objective of having quiet neighbors.(Neville-ize), because I knew the annoyance at my neighbor would always butt in during the visualization so I kept it general, as Abraham would say )
2. ) I also wanted to figure out how to actually “use the noise” that I was hearing from this loud guy next door, as a trigger, to frame it like it actually meant my problem was solved.
Let me explain:
Not sure if you’ve ever had loud music-loving neighbors yourself.. but sometimes a noise you would hear, that’s not even from them, like a loud car parking nearby, blasting their music, makes you think it’s your neighbor’s music, and then you realize it isn’t them.
So, I started pretending that some of the loud bass music coming from the wall, was actually someone outside ( like a car nearby ), and deliberately felt the emotion of happiness and relief, and held onto that feeling as many seconds as possible. Even though the music was actually him.. .. however you and I know, that the atoms of corporeal Reality outside, reflects our feelings, so if I can create feelings of Happiness and Joy, that my issue is resolved.. , even though it isn’t at that second,.. your future changes to reflect that deliberate Feeling.
— Pretending is powerful, if you charge it with emotion —
Also, the simple idea came to me, to just make a quick phone call to the landlord, to ask him to call the neighbor. I had to wait until that impetus to make that complaint call, was something inspired, and not do it out of anger. So that call to the manager, caused the music to take a little dip down ( though it went back up gradually )
Better yet, though, about 2.5 months later, I hear commotion outside my front door, and I look through the peephole to witness ( through that limited vision it gives you ), the beautiful sight of furniture being moved out of that apt, and my neighbor holding one of a bookcase. He was talking to his friend, and saying that his job relocation took him to the other end of the city, so he had to move.
Coincidence? Could be.. but I like to think that hiking my Emotional Tone as consistently as I could, played into it ( or was the complete cause of it )
It gets better. Last Saturday, I see through my window ( next to the front door ), a couple of men walking out of that same apartment, and the man doing the talking, is saying how he likes his new apt,.. so I knew it was he who’s living there. What’s cool is, he’s in the age range of probably receiving social security and not someone who’s likely to blast music. ( Yes! )
My original intention, was to: “Have a peaceful people-environment”.. NOT.. “Want Mr. Late-20’s Kid Next to me, to move out”….
It’s always good to go “directly” for what you really want, and not try to micro-manage how you want your Reality to mold into.
As a summary:
- First thing to do, is to release resistance ( this could be EFT, Release technique, etc..)
- – If you’re still too emotionally Charged, to try to imagine a specific scenario, then nail down the 2 or 3 feelings you’d feel, if you were living a Quiet-People environment.. and then start changing your lifestyle, so that you’re regularly feeling those.
- – If you get a “Hit of Inspiration” to take an action, like calling the landlord or knocking on the neighbor’s door, go ahead, otherwise, don’t take action out of being Un-Aligned to positive emotions. ( the fact that I followed my own urge, to call the Landlord may or may not have accelerated the neighbor’s decision to move out, but either way, I did it out of just going with the flow, from what felt natural )
p.s. A picture of my view from my balcony